“What will society think” This questions gets my blood pressure high. Not kidding.
When anyone before doing anything asks me this question, it throws me in a fit immediately. How about questionning yourself before an action.
If the action is right and is not harming anyone, why even bothering yourself with the society bullshit.
Let me explain what exactly I am talking about.
My friend, Meena is an avid lover of art and if you see her work, you’ll be left baffled.
One day, Meena asked me if she should pursue a career in art. I immediately shouted a Yes!!
“But what will the society think?”, Meena said. “Art as a profession is looked down upon. You don’t earn much, initially. People have perceptions and they’ll judge me for wasting my life and say that I should rather be doing/working on a ‘reputated profession’ like business or medical, etc.”
“Art makes you happy, Meena?”
“It makes me feel alive. And I think I’ll be really good in this line.”
“Then why are you so bothered about making the society happy that you are ready to sacrifice your own?”
“because everyday I’ll wake up with a thought in mind, questionning myself if what I am doing is right and with society at my back, maybe I’ll start doubting my abilities.”
“Ok, so you know what you want to do in life. Now that you know what your values are, it’s time to put yourself out there.
Keep in mind that when you’re doing any of these activities, you have to speak your mind. Be honest with yourself and what you share, because the world doesn’t need another conflict-avoider who does what everyone else does.”
No, seriously! You will be damned everyday if you try to be or do something different. But once you reach where you want to, you’ll look back and see people, admiring you for shinning in a place full of clones.
That’s how the society is.
In simple words, legit don’t give a fuck about society. Focus on what you want. Be brave and you’ll feel free.
Be a unicorn. How do you think the worlds ‘greatest’ achieved so much. By worrying about what other’s opinion? No!
They didn’t wasted their energy. They focused on what they wanted and what they wanted to be.
Simple tip : Live and let live.
Live as you want to, how you want, with who you want to. As long as it is not harming anyone.
And for the ‘society’ quit judging and interferring and let people live on their terms. If it is not harming your life in any way, Stay out of others.
Everyone has different set of values, follow it but don’t force your values on others.
Being a girl in an Indian society is a pain at times. You are judged for so many things at so many levels. It is insane.
People have double standards here.
I was once asked by the secretary of the building where I live to start ‘dressing approcriately’. Really sir? I have seen boys roaming in boxers outside. Why you never told them about how ‘uncomfortable’ they were making the people.
You’ll see me wearing a skirt one day and a kurti tomorrow. It keeps on changing but will you really lable me as ‘bad or inapprocriate’ for wearing a skirt?
Indian society love their boys but they leave no mercy when judging a girl.
I love to party so I’ll be labled as spoiled. The same spoiled child who does exceptionally well, everytime wether it is school or worl.
I love to dress a little sexy sometimes so I’ll be labled as a whore. Whore who is in a faithful relationship with someone for the past 3 years.
My point here, stop with the judging society.
And to you, who is afraid to spread their wings, constantly crushing yourself because of people who don’t know you.
Be bold enough to live your life on your own terms, and never ever apologize for it. Go against the grain and refuse to conform, take the road less travalled then the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity and leap before you look. Dance as though everyone is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.
Believe me, being different is more fun.
The Gypsy Panda